- Do you often find you have difficulty organising tasks and activities
- Do you have trouble doing things in their proper order or sequence?
- Do you find your mind becomes infiltrated with extraneous thoughts?
- Do you struggle to sustain concentration?
- Do you feel you make decisions hastily?
- When starting a project or task do you just dive in without reading or listening to directions carefully?
- Once you’ve started an activity, do you find you have difficulty stopping?
- What about commitments? Do you regularly fail to follow through and let often others down?
- Does time seem to evaporate?
- Are planning and schedules non-existent or if in place do they quickly become undone?
- Does life feel chaotic?
If you are an adult or young adult with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) and feel your life could be more organised, more productive, less chaotic, you’ve come to the right place.
Perhaps you’re a higher education student and just can’t manage with timetables and homework and exam preparation and pressure? Perhaps you also have learning difficulties? Or maybe you are a parent of a child or teenager who has ADHD or it could be that you haven’t been diagnosed with ADHD, but staying organised, managing time and sustaining attention are challenging for you.
I have over 25 years of experience living and coping and managing ADHD personally and professionally. I don’t have ADHD but I am surrounded by family members who do have this disorder and I live with the dysfunctions it causes on a daily basis.
What does ADHD coaching include and how will it help you?
ADHD coaching focuses on the behaviours that result from the neurological differences of an ADHD brain and on finding appropriate solutions that will also fit in with the client’s aims and daily life-style.
How do we start?
The first thing will be for us to learn about one another and for you to learn about yourself and ADHD. You have a neurobiological disorder that causes havoc with what is known as the executive functioning part of the brain. Every person who has this disorder is different and has varying levels of unpredictable neurological dysfunctions that affect abilities such as planning, organisation, keeping track of time, paying attention and keeping focused – just to name a few.
Together we will:
- pinpoint areas you wish to work on
- determine your strengths and weaknesses
- create a plan and structured framework
Coaching will include you learning how to develop and use:
- self-management practices
- time-management skills
- organisational techniques
- self-awareness and self evaluation
Why self-awareness and self evaluation? So you can eventually self-check , look inwards, reflect on your behaviour, understand your actions, correct and adjust and manage yourself.
How can coaching help?
Can coaching solve all the symptoms associated with ADHD? No.
The purpose of ADHD coaching is to identify the main symptoms and behaviours that are disrupting your daily life and environment and build strategies and practical techniques that will help you understand, recognise, cope, and manage your behaviour and eventually self-coach. By applying self-help strategies over time, they will become learned behaviours and through the positive effects they will bring, you will become more efficient, effective, and more satisfied professionally and personally and hopefully happier and calmer.
Discover how your own brain functions
I understand you are not just trying to achieve goals that seem easily attainable to others but you are also fending off numerous neurological impulses that seem determined to push and distract you in different directions or no direction at all. This is why one of the first tasks you will be given is to read, listen, watch and find as many ways to understand ADHD as you can. If you do not understand your brain and how it functions and why it functions the way it does, you will not successfully apply any practical solutions offered on a permanent, routine basis and you will not understand why certain tasks will be more difficult than others and why sometimes it will be hard for you to break old patterns of behaviour.
Once you have a basic understanding as to how your brain functions, and you have chosen a specific area to work on, we will build a plan based on your strengths which will provide a structure to work within. Understanding has to come first because your brain will fight against structure. Just hearing the word probably sounds pretty daunting but it is important that we follow the steps within a plan. Of course we will check if the steps are appropriate and working and make adjustments if necessary.
In the coaching partnership, I will be your guide. Besides helping you pinpoint the areas you wish to work on, I will be at hand to help you identify, prepare for and negotiate any stumbling blocks and support you if you fall behind and help you make adjustments in any areas that you feel are not working for you.
What you need to understand and know
It is essential to understand, as I have repeated throughout the pages on here, that coaching is not a cure for ADHD. It provides a supportive management system.
You need to know
- Coaching is not a substitute for other kinds of therapy or medication.
- I can informally assess you and advise you to go for further assessments to confirm if you have ADHD or not but I am not trained professionally to give you a formal diagnosis.
What you need
- You need to want to change.
- You need to learn about your disorder.
- You need to know coaching is a process.
- You need to know only commitment and sustained effort will bring results.
- You need to know this is not easy or quick fix.
- You need to know it will be worth it.
My role as a coach is to help you help yourself create the life you want to lead. If after reading this, you feel that coaching can help you and you are ready and open to change and determined to work at it, please contact me.